Welcome to the Karla Lee Website...
Here you will find helpful information for both Children & Parents. Whether you are recently separated or divorced Karla has something to help your fsmily reconnect.
Through personal experience at the age of 9, Karla has helpful information, tips and resources for both Children & Parents.
Karla Lee's Personal Story is a Testimony to all that Children of Divorce can go on to have very fulfilling lives. Karla's desire is to shed light on "The Child's Perspective".
Karla Lee grew up in Sydney's Sutherland Shire.
From a very young age Karla was Dancing and Performing. This then grew to be a very big passion of Karla's where she then went on to perform in many Amature Musicals Societies.
Karla's Parents Separated in 1982, and Karla stayed living in her Family home with her Father up until she finished her School Certificate, 1989.
Karla was then accepted into a 2yr full time course at the "Australian Academy of Dramatic Arts" 1990-1991 where she received a Diploma in Dramatic Arts.
Karla has continued to dance and perform throughout her life, and now runs a childrens Zumba dance class at a local Public School. (www.zumbazoo.com.au).
Karla also volunteers at her local church, where is oversees their Dance School (BCSA) and Produces/Writes & Directs their major Productions.
Karla has been happily married to Jay for over 10yrs, and has two precious Girls Faith & Hope.
I know first hand what it feels like to be a child of Divorce becasue my parents separated when I was only 9yrs old. I thought I had the perfect Family, but sadly in a moment, my world was about to be shattered into a thousand pieces.
I was very angry at the world, and felt like I was the only child going through this. I didn't know who to talk to about it. I know now I made the wrong decision of talking to anyone. This only led to further problems down the tract with relationships and drugs. Trust me when I say this, Talking to someone, anyone you trust, is better than saying nothing at all. Don't bottle your feelings up as they are just as important as your parents feelings. This is your family too, so make sure you put yourself first and seek help. Remember you are not alone or the only one going through it.
If you need urgent help please call "Kids Help Line" on 1800 55 1800
Email Karla Lee at:
info_karlalee.com Just for
a chat, or to get some advice.
Important Tips To Remember!
Where Do You Start?
Right now you are probably going through your own up & down emotions, and you have no idea how to talk to your kids.
Well you have come to the right place!
Remember it is never to late to open the communication lines between you and your child. I would suggest you read my book "Please Don't Go!" first, to give yourself a birds eye view of how they could be feeling.
You need to get into their world. Find out their intrests, and make some one on one time with each child. Let them know that you care about how they are feeling and would like them to know that you are there if they want to chat.
* Remember they feel your pain as they are suffering too
* Don't assume they are ok
* Ask them if they would like to talk (or be ready to when they want too) be an open door
* If you have a close relative they may open up too maybe try taking them there, or they may be open to see a counsellor
* Stick to your Boundaries & Rules
*Keep up their normal routine (It helps them)
*Don't brush things under the carpet as it may come back to bite you later
*Put them before a new partner, they need you more.
* Love them, Love them, Love them.
Email Karla Lee to talk at
info_karlalee.com
Is It My Fault?
Karla Lee illustrated 4 Childrens Stories in one book to help Primary aged Children connect with their emotions. The counselling Puppet Dolls also go with this book.
1. Mummy please don't go!
2. She's my friend not my Mummy.
3. Daddy please don't go!
4. He's my friend not my Daddy.
4 Counselling Puppet Dolls
Karla has personally designed these 4 Role-Playing Puppet Dolls to go with the book "Is It My Fault?" They are also a great Counselling tool. Karla designed them as a Family Unit so that Parents at home can also Role Play with their kids and try to touch on the feelings and emotions of their child.
Please Don't Go!
This is a True Story about Karla Lee. Karla shares with you the pain and struggles she felt from her Parents Divorce. Karla shows Parents how she felt it could have been handled better, and gives Parents helpful tools so that they can start communicating with their kids now. '
It is never to late; says Karla'
Is It My Fault
This is a Illustrated Childrens Book for Young Children who may be finding it hard to understand their Parents Separation or Divorce. It has 4 short stories about Parents leaving the home & Step-parents entering the home. You can also use the Puppet Dolls with this book.
$10
This is a True Story about Karla Lee life as a child of Divorce at the age of 9.. Karla gives a very raw and honest overview of her life and how the divorce affected her. For 17yrs Karla was very bitter about the Divorce but then Karla through her own choices turned over a new leaf and showed it was possible to have a happy life after her Parents Divorce. Karla recommends this book for teenagers (so that they can connect with Karla and feel understood) and also for Parents to to understand the childs mind and emotions when they are going through this tough time.
"Is It My Fault" and "Please Don't Go!"
Karla Lee recommends you buy both of these book if you have a younger and older child. If you have a younger child who can read through is book "Is It My Fault?" , Karla recommends you as the Parent also read "Please Don't Go!" as it willhelp give you insight into their emotions & feelings.
$15
4 Counselling Puppet Dolls (30cms in height)
4 Counselling Pupper Dolls for you & your Child to interact with. Like Counsellors do in their practice, try using these Puppets to open the communication lines between you and your Children.
$20
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In the meantime if you wish to purchase one of Karla Lee's Books or her Dolls email Karla Lee at: info_karlalee.com and we will be happy to assist you.
CHECKOUT
1. Karla Lee has captured the answer to help so many children and parents when separation or divorce occurs. With the illustrations children and young people will be able to absorb the important messages Karla is sending. -Barbara Holborow OAM (Former-Magistrate of the Children’s Courts)
2. "After working closely with children who have been the unheard, unnoticed victims of separation and divorce for nearly ten years, this book gives me hope that at last children can find a way to share the range and depth of emotions adults are largely oblivious to. Many parts of this story echoed what children have struggled to express to me over the years. This story gives a voice to many voiceless young children." -Lily Roberts-Everett, Executive Manager: Interrelate, and KIDS FIRST: Supervised Contact Specialist, Convener Australian Children’s Contact Services
3. "I would recommend this book as a valuable resource for young people struggling with family problems. Karla's struggle to overcome the legacy of separation is truthful and touching" -Barbara Adair Manager Parent Line
4 .I found this book very insightful into things in my life and my two young children, and how divorce can affect my kids, and how I can lessen the impact on them. Karla opens her heart and mind for all to see it is very open, raw, honest and enlightening, I found it very helpful. --Father with 2 young kids.
5. This book helped me understand my feelings. I also felt sad like the character Faith, especially when my friends at school talked about their families.
Megan (8yrs old) Her parents are separated.
6. 'We've always known that when it comes to family/marriage breakdowns, it's the least to blame that's often the most affected. Virtually on behalf of all these precious children, Karla's book has lovingly and gently brought this out for us in an honest and needful way, A real eye opener for all parents and families; but also will help break the cycle of divorce for this and future generations. Thank you Karla for speaking out in such truthful way' -Vic.Turner, Facilitator/co-coordinator, Single Again Support Group; Divorce Care.
Karla Lee's Books are Endorsed By: Barbara Holborow
Barbara Holboros the former magistrate of the NSW Children’s Court, said Karla Lee’s books provide the sort of help needed by many children and parents, during a separation or divorce. “The illustrations will help children absorb the important messages Karla is sending,” she said.
Barbara Holborow endorsed both of Karla Lee’s books and also opened her book launch at Sydney's Parliament House in 2003.
